Your relationship with your spouse or partner is constantly changing.
With every interaction or conversation between the two people, the relationship becomes a tiny bit better or a tiny bit worse.
Over time, those tiny shifts to better or worse can lead to a major change in the relationship if many of them are in the same direction.
Surprisingly, research on married couples shows that one of the most important times for a couple is not when one of them is struggling with a problem, but when one of them has received good news.
Good news – large or small.
The way you react to good news about the other person strengthens or weakens your relationship.
This might seem obvious until you realize that even a neutral reaction on your part will weaken the relationship.
There is no standing still. If the reaction is not positive, you are drifting apart.
Everyone needs support and encouragement – it’s a natural part of life. So when your good news is not recognized, enjoyed and even celebrated, you notice it.
A shade of disappointment creeps in and the relationship with the person who disappointed you suffers… a lot when the good news is big, a little when the good news is small.
This is equally true in relationships other than marriage.
Some of the strongest sibling bonds occur because the siblings are able to champion each other’s strengths and so don’t disappoint.
One reason (among many) that we cherish our mothers is that often there is no accomplishment too small for our mothers to notice.
And what is the other person does not want “a fuss” over their accomplishment?
Even if the other person protests, make sure to react positively to that problem solved, skill displayed or stroke of genius that he or she does.
Turn the good news into an occasion by adding enthusiastic, positive comments at the very least.
Your relationship will be a tiny bit better if you do. And every little bit counts!