That’s for certain. We all know change is a natural way of the world. Leaves turn color, the temperature drops, snow falls, people age: all things change.
These are changes that you can expect.
There are also changes causing uncertainty and doubt that you can’t predict. These surprises can make you feel like the plastic blow-up clown of your childhood days that had a rounded bottom: whenever you hit it, it wobbled back and forth. That’s how all the uncertainty you face in today’s world can make you feel.
Studies have shown that happiness and control over one’s life are directly proportional to each other. In other words, the more control you have over your life, the happier you will be.
So in times of uncertainty, how can you remain happy, centered, and peaceful?
One way to approach uncertainty is to become more certain of yourself. Seriously consider who you are: your gifts, your values, what you hold dear. This is the time for honesty, not modesty.
Are you able to truly express who you are?
If so, in what areas of your life?
If not, how can you become truer to yourself?
If you have a hard time honestly assessing these questions, perhaps talking with a trusted relative, friend, or professional can help you take a fresh look at yourself.
In uncertain times, it always helps to become more certain of yourself.
Dr. Seuss said it beautifully: “Be who you are and do what you want because those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind.” If you are not being you, who is?
Focusing on who you truly are will enable you to respond to life with more certainty. When you are centered in yourself, your foundation is stronger. You won’t rebound like the clown, but instead will be better able to adjust to changes that roll your way.
Another way to approach uncertainty is to set goals for yourself. They can support you in growing more certain of yourself.
What dreams do you have?
How can you work towards them?
How will that help you create more certainty for yourself?
Create a timeline; chart a life map; collage a vision board; write a letter to yourself dated one, two or five years from now telling what you have accomplished. Then put what you have created somewhere you can see it regularly so that these dreams and goals will remain at the forefront of your mind, not buried under all the minutia of the day.
The world is changing rapidly, and some of our basic paradigms are changing with it. Are there old perceptions, ideas, and beliefs that you can release? For example, old postures of duality and division (us versus them, right versus wrong, etc.) are rooted in fear.
The purpose of such postures is to keep people angry and on the defensive. Fear breeds more fear; it always works!
Our global village can’t sustain this black-or-white, conflicted way of thinking. Focusing on what connects us to each other rather than what separates us is what will serve all of us in our world community.
This type of perspective leads to greater understanding of yourself and others, which in turn leads to greater compassion, unity, and peace. All of which lead to less uncertainty.
Another paradigm that many hold is the need to be in control. Truth is, you are only in control of yourself (and sometimes that is only on a good day!). Realizing that there are situations and people that you cannot control can be a great relief.
This recognition doesn’t necessarily make change easier, but it can reduce your worrying about it. As the saying goes, “Worry doesn’t strengthen tomorrow, it weakens today.” When you let go of trying to control things and people you cannot control and focus on your control of yourself, you gain certainty.
Certainty has an important place in these times of change and uncertainty. But you can’t look to others to create that for you. You must look inside to find the steps you need to create your own confidence and certainty.
What will you do to make your world a bit more certain? Share your thoughts with us in the comments.