Curiosity can be an intellectual exercise – information seeking of a practical nature…
How do we get there?
What’s the warranty on this item?
Where does this produce come from? Is it organic?
How much will this cost?
You need this kind of curiosity in life, but I want you to go deeper into how curiosity can help you.
First, curiosity can make you happier.
The world opens up as an amazing learning laboratory once you embrace your curiosity.
Next, curiosity moves you away from being judgmental and critical both of which can be very toxic.
Here’s how that works…
When you are confronted with a stressor in your life, you may tend to assume you know what is right or believe you know the answer.
That quick leap to “the answer” automatically brings judgment into the picture.
What if instead you became curious about it? What if you asked, “I wonder why…” instead of thinking, “Why on earth isn’t it..”?
It’s a subtle and powerful shift.
Curiosity conveys an openness to a situation… while assumptions and quick answers bring a closed mindset to the forefront.
How differently might you feel if you were curious instead…
Did they see me? Did they realize how close we were? (After all, this is a mistake we’ve all made.)
The perspective of curiosity brings a new lightness to your observation of all of us being human.
In conflict resolution, for example in a marriage, curiosity and openness are important aspects of resolving issues.
Humans often enter conflict by making assumptions and they are often assuming that the other person has negative intentions.
Although you may not even realize you are doing this, it always hurts a relationship to assume the other person is being intentionally harmful.
It isn’t until you bring curiosity to the situation
– asking questions and openly listening to the responses in order to
clarify the issue –
that you can begin to understand where the conflict is rooted.
Once you understand, you are more able and willing to discuss the topic with less volatile and more compassionate responses.
How can you bring more curiosity into your life?
Slowing down and paying attention is one way.
As you engage more slowly and more fully in your present experience, you move from a passive interest (or assumption) to an active curiosity.
Remember how wondrous the world seemed to you when you were a child?
They still do.
You only need to be curious to notice them.
Every moment offers an opportunity to start becoming more curious.
Curiosity brings many gifts. First and foremost is the gift of healing.
It is a gift to yourself, bringing you back to a place of inner alignment.
It is a gift to your relationships, to let the other person be heard without judgment.
It can be very healing and freeing to remember that you are in the midst of tiny miracles every day.
As you start to benefit from curiosity in this way, you can then gift it to others.
You can begin in this moment, just with an intention to be curious.
That intention opens up the potential for increased understanding… which allows you to make more informed choices.
When this happens, you may heal old wounds.
You will deepen the quality of your experience in life.
In making curiosity a continuous effort, you evolve from unconscious assumptions and processes, to conscious awareness, to engaged learning.
Let’s say that another way – you can go from data to information to knowledge to wisdom.
What a healing journey sparked by a little curiosity that is!
How have you used curiosity to improve things in your life? We would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.