You hear all the time that you need balance in your life.
But balance can lead to stagnation.
You know life is not like that.
Life is not stagnant; it keeps changing and moving.
And if you don’t change and move with the flow of life and adapt to it, you are not only out of balance, but you can be behind wondering, “What happened?”
In order to keep up with life, you must keep in motion.
Einstein said, “Life is like riding a bicycle. In order to stay balanced, you have to keep moving.”
All bike-riding kids know this.
You can even became so comfortable with your balance on a bicycle that you ride with no hands holding the handlebars.
That can be a great source of pride especially if you were the only girl in a neighborhood full of boys.
As an adult though, you have more heaped onto your handle bars.
You are likely to lose the love of riding your bike for the sake of moving through the air. You may lose the sense of getting from point A to point B with joy and ease.
With all of your roles and responsibilities, it can feel like a hardship to get from one place to another… especially when you must make sure you are carrying what you need, meeting who you need to, and getting there when you need to.
So instead of focusing on balance – even the fluid kind – I want you to think about Harmony.
When you have harmony between your roles and your responsibilities, they flow.
When parents work in a setting where family roles are respected, there is less resistance when you have to stay home to care for a sick child.
But if your employment does not place high value on family roles, you can feel a terrible inner conflict: how can you possibly accomplish both roles?
This type of inner conflict (disharmony between your values and your world) causes stress.
And stress causes: dis-ease.
Some definitions of harmony include:
– agreement; accord; harmonious relations,
– consistent, orderly, or pleasing arrangement of parts; congruity,
– the simultaneous combination of tones, esp. when blended into chords pleasing to the ear
How do your current life choices compare to each of these definitions?
Music therapy has long been something used to affect people’s emotions and sense of well-being. The more harmonious the music, the more relaxing is your response.
And don’t forget your own voice is another instrument for music therapy.
How long has it been since you’ve used your voice to sing? Maybe in a chorus, in the car, or even just in the shower?
Singing sets up a vibration that literally resonates throughout your body, helping you to be more relaxed. Even just humming can help you feel more at ease.
Listening to your favorite music can restore you to harmony.
What is the kind of music that is your “audio relaxer”?
Try listening to different types of music to see if anything new affects you positively. I love rock music, but there are times when the beat is just too fast, energetic or loud for me.
Then I change to more soothing music such as classical or jazz. Find the music that blends with your mood and needs at the time.
Try literally singing with your family.
A man in my town sings and teaches Barbershop Quartet. The magic of Barbershop is that while there are four men singing, their harmony is so tight that there is a magical fifth note created. Talk about the total being greater than the sum of its parts!
Beyond the literal harmony of music, there is can be emotional harmony within your relationships as well.
Blending your “song” with others is a delightful and intentional way of encouraging harmonious relationships.
Talk with your family or your coworkers to see how you can combine the various “notes” of your lives so that you all are playing a chord together.
The goal is to try to create harmony by striking “notes” that blend together rather than trying to hit the same note. When you allow others to be who they are and maintain your own authenticity, life becomes deeper and richer.
Spend some time exploring the mysteries of harmony – both inner and outer.
Actively seek ways to share and expand your life into a harmonious balance of all its parts.
How do you already have some harmony in your life? Share in the comments how you have already created harmony or how you intend to do so now.